Abuse..............................a word that conjures up so much for all of us..............before I go into that, I would like to just go back to my experience of receiving this amazing bodywork process called the Abuse Hold, that has totally change my world........................
I was in Copenhagen, now nearly two years ago, for the first class where Gary Douglas, founder of Access Consciousness, taught the Abuse Hold.
I still remember walking out of that class at night into the beautiful city of Copenhagen, and feeling different.....................like there was a space and an ease in my body that I hadn't experienced before......................that I was able to receive from everything around me in a way that somehow hadn't been possible up until then...........................
In the time that has unfolded since then, I have more ease, flexibility and yumminess in my body than ever before – yes, more than as a teenager and in my twenties, and I am now in my fifties..........it's no longer about disease and difficulty, it's about feeling better and yummier.................
And I feel that a lot of that is down to receiving this amazing process....................
So, back to abuse............................
I have never experienced what we generally think of as “abuse”, that is I have never experienced the extremes of physical or sexual violence.
What I have learned, and what probably resonates with you is that abuse is way wider than what we usually think. Any word or gesture that isn't total caring and kindness is abuse. Any sexual encounter where our partner is anything other than totally present and totally kind and caring is abuse.
So, yes, obviously I have been abused.............................as we all have.................
And there are other forms of abuse that I have never even thought of, and I have definitely experienced them. Financial abuse – anywhere we have been told there isn't enough, we don't deserve to have what we desire. Verbal abuse – from shouting and threats, to a thoughtless word from an otherwise kind person.
We can then internalise all of this – and perpetrate it on ourselves! and on our children..............And so the cycle goes on!!!!
The abuse hold is totally magical for releasing all of this, for breaking that cycle……………………….with ease, and way more quickly and completely than anything else I have ever encountered before.
Receiving the Abuse Hold is a two part process.
The first part is to listen to a recording of a class with Gary Douglas from a few years ago. This recording will literally allow you to release all the psychological points of view you have about abuse.
If you have experienced physical or sexual abuse, you need to listen to this thirty to forty times, otherwise twenty to thirty.
It's possible to listen to it low volume over night or as you do other things during the day – and I would also recommend to listen to it at least a few times where you hear the words.
You may find you don't get what Gary is talking about, you may feel angry, upset, or “zone out” - this is all part of the process, so please don't give up. And also please feel free to get in touch with me if you want to talk anything through.
The second part is to physically receive the abuse hold.
This is quite simply to be held with kindness, allowance and presence.............................and when the body feels this, it is able to release the trauma and abuse from the very cells where it has been locked in...................
To give you a bit more information, here are two "snap shots" of recent sessions with two people.
The first one was with a lovely woman in her early fifties who had been sexually abused as a young teenager.
The release in the session came in waves. Times of moving the body, shaking the body to release, and times of crying and sobbing. And then times of peace and quiet.
And at the end uncontrollable laughter. Which actually infected me too.
The second one was with a young man who had been verbally abused, and hit as a child.
This session was much quieter. There were short periods of catharsis or release – and mainly this lovely man was just allowing his body to receive nurturing, loving energy that it had maybe never been able to let in before. There was a deep peace and relaxation at the end of the session.
That was my experience of their sessions – and here’s briefly what they say in their own words:
“Thank you Fiona I cannot begin to put into words how amazing I feel after receiving the abuse hold!!!! The session has released pain and tension in my body I had put down to arthritis and my age. It has also resolved my insomnia I have had since childhood and I am now in my fifties!!!
I now feel like I have a new lease of life I feel fitter happier more at peace and I have more energy and vitality hurray!!!! And as I’m sure you would say lovely Fiona how does it get any better than this???!!!xxx” Therapist, North of England
“Ever since I’d heard about the Access Abuse Hold technique my body had been saying ‘Gimme that!’ and I am so grateful that you have trained in this incredibly nurturing, healing and body freeing process.
In the session I was surprised that my usual stressful ‘Come on body, heal now, lets get this done quick!’ approach melted away very early on and was replaced with a huge, gentle and kind space of allowance and receiving. To be held in such a space is glorious and the body tension and rigidity that I’ve struggled with for many years eased as the process enabled me to stop fighting my body and myself.
Your kind and judgement free presence was there throughout and I was amazed at how gently and freely past traumas unlocked in my body. Thank you so much Fiona.
Since the session I’m much more present in my body and there is much more ease and space. I’ve also become more aware of how I treat myself and am choosing to be kinder. Oh and I’m excited about the future again! What else is possible now?! Thank you!” Facilitator, North of England
If this is interesting to you, you can download the class here. And you can contact me here to make a time for your session.
Please allow up to two hours for your session. For some people, one hour is enough - it is very individual, and I allow the time that your sweet body requires. I would suggest a quiet time after your session.
The cost for each session is £210.
And if you'd like to have a talk about all of this, call me on 07903 019461 or email me here.